By Wylie Farrugia
The first stage of motherhood can begin in many different ways. However it happens, whether biological or not, there’s no doubt that the maternal instincts that kick in are felt the same way. This feeling can come alive as soon as you see the two little lines on a pink stick or the moment you realize you are eligible to adopt a child. In that moment, you may feel a multitude of things, but I guarantee that every emotion runs deep to your heart and radiates to those around you.
When I saw those two little lines myself for the first time this past January, It came as a big surprise. I was a little scared, a little unsure, but more than anything, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. The way that I had wanted it to happen all these years was not the way that it did, but in that moment it didn’t matter, and every moment after that in this early stage of motherhood.
Motherhood may come when you least expect it, but it doesn’t make it any less special than when you plan for it. This was a lesson I learned as I stared down at those two lines. This was a lesson that was reinforced when I saw my baby‘s heartbeat on the ultrasound. knowing that as much as I didn’t plan for this, I am equipped to be an amazing mother.
It may seem like a whirlwind, calling your family members and telling them; seeing those that you love‘s reaction to the big news. It’s amazing to know that you are carrying a light inside of you that will one day brighten the lives of others and be an illumination in somebody’s dark world. It is such a blessing that you are able to carry this light, and nourish it with your body and soul.
When I think of the baby that’s growing inside me, I think of the Woman who carried me inside of her, and the woman who carried her inside of her. I think of all the mothers that brought me here to grow this precious life. The sacrifices that those mothers made, the suffering they endured, the love that shaped a long line of my ancestors, and the love that will continue on to my own baby and into future generations. I want more than ever to strengthen my weaknesses so that I can guide my little one in the direction that their heart yearns to go with confidence and compassion.
To all of the mothers out there, I want you to know that you are a pillar of strength to those around you. You are an inspiration to the younger generations that you are raising, and your ancestors would be proud to see how their family line has grown and transformed. It’s up to us to break generational patterns of negativity and abuse. It’s up to us to heal ourselves so that we may raise compassionate, strong willed individuals. It’s more important now than ever to encourage your children’s and grandchildren’s light to shine bright in this seemingly heartless world. Happy Mother’s Day to you and always remember that you have such a unique and wonderful power to shape the world we live in by loving and growing the next generation of children who will one day carry the torch.
Happy Mother’s Day