By Scott I. Brook, P.A.
Life and divorce can be so tough and unfair. Kids suffer. Parents suffer. What can we ALL possibly do differently? What am I, as a family law practitioner, doing differently to mitigate the pain and the financial costs? I am doing several things differently to offer more value, greater certainty and to alleviate some of the pain associated with divorce and post-judgment child custody matters. The main purpose of this article is to let you know you are not alone, you do not have to be alone and no matter what, there are remedies for you. In sharing these remedies, I will also elaborate on how our firm may be able to help you or someone you care about.
First, you should know there is NOTHING to be embarrassed about. EVERYONE has their unique challenges. Today is the best day to start from because if you start from anywhere else, chances are you are living in the past and in your head and you are not truly living to arrive at your new goals. So, make today a fresh start. Whether you or your ex suffer from mental illness, alcoholism, a recent job loss or are catching up with paying down your debt, you are not alone.
Here are seven steps you can take to alleviate some of your pain while going through a divorce or dealing with post-divorce issues:
- Go from here. Make today a new day. Stop making yourself wrong for what you did to get here.
- Repeat Step One, Each day and each hour if you have to. Forgive yourself.
- Consider your goals and write them down. Consider by when you want to achieve those goals. A goal without a deadline is often unrealized.
- See a mental health counselor or engage in any activity to help bring you peace.
- Do not define yourself by your ex’s words or actions or the termination of your marriage or by whatever ailment you are enduring.
- Seek help from friends, family, loved ones and anyone that can help you achieve your goals; and
- Work on achieving your goals daily no matter what – even if it means taking a break to fortify yourself for the next day.
A bonus step, which has helped me so much to go beyond my pain is to is to engage in GRATITUDE.
Be thankful for the good stuff and good people in your life. Be grateful for the accomplishments you have achieved. Take another look at your child or children and focus on what vision you have for your legacy.
As a result of my adversity, I have offered financial assistance and arrangements to help with litigation, some pro bono time, I have considered more flat fee arrangements and I am more patient than ever before when I have a client-focused on problems. While I have always loved serving others and help families start new chapters, I have never been more cognizant of the uncertainties so many people face. In light of my new awareness, I am spending more time arriving at creative solutions to help my clients manage their uncertainty while being able to afford our joint efforts to achieve their objectives.
Lastly, I am constantly reminding my clients, friends, family and myself that no matter what the problem, there is always a solution, even if we don’t know it readily.
Thanks for reading. Have a great day!
I hope this helps you or someone you know.
Scott J. Brook, P.A. Family & Estate Law
2832 University Dr. Coral Springs 33065